Dating
advice 101. Purpose for dating (courtship).
Let us take a
lesson of dating advice from our grandparents who stayed together for
decades. Not
a year to 7 years, but they stayed together for decades. In
addition, it was unthinkable
to divorce behind what they would call "petty business".
They stayed
together because of the foundation that was established in the
beginning of their
relationship. Not too long ago, a man came to court a woman. He would
haft to come and
ask to sit on the porch with her and have a glass of lemonade. He went
out of
his way to prove to her and her parents. That he was a good
provider and was capable of taking care
of her in a proper and suitable manner. They was nothing called casual
dating.
Some may say
this is old fashion or corny. However, a foundation was
established that stood the
tests and trails that came their way. Men and women alike
thought about what were
the motives behind sitting on the porch with one another.
We will call
it dating advice for the sake of this generations. However some say “if
ain't
broke don’t fix it.” Why have we moved into a time where the average
marriage
last between 7-10 years?
We all want
love to be the reason for our marriage. Yes, women want security,
romance, intimacy,
and sexual gratification, acceptance in society and motherhood. She
wants her husband
to be successful in some respectable field of endeavor so she can be
proud of
him. The man wants comfort, consolation, sexual gratification and a
caretaker
for his children. He wants a wife that he finds physically attractive
so that
other men will admire him. Both men and women want to be loved by their
spouse.
If being
married is your hearts desire then this is for you. That would be the
only sensible
reason to even court (date) in the first place.
According to
Webster’s courtship means “the
act of courting”. It
is also defined as “to win the favor of by attention or flattery: to
win the
affection or love of; to woo.
So here, you
will find the guiding steps that lead to a successful marriage.
 Marriage
is a divine contract that
involves the rights and obligations and the mutual responsibilities of
the
husband and the wife.
Marriage is the
union of two souls,
which are one in essence.
Marriage is the
institution where men
and women are joined in a special kind of social and legal dependency,
for the
purpose of founding and maintaining a family.
Marriage is the
commitment by two
souls in which they find mutual fulfillment, self-realization, love,
peace, compassion,
serenity, comfort, and hope.
Marriage is a
learning experience in
which two people from two uniquely different backgrounds come together
and must
struggle through many different emotions to arrive at a point of
compromise.
If
this is not why you are seeking advice, then we may suggest that you
are
not ready to date. Courtship(dating) is a serious matter,
and if you
are not ready to invite this into your life.
Then you may be
considered as one of those who are playing with the emotions of someone
that maybe very ready for marriage.
Courtship
helps you to avoid the pitfalls of dating the way that it is going on
today. In no way are we saying that if you follow this advice
that your marriage
will be perfect or pain free. What we are saying is that it will be
able to
survive the struggles that may come your way.
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