Love is the mother of all emotion.

Expressing this emotion is done in many different ways. Nevertheless, it is expressed and that means work needs to be done. It is one of the first emotions we feel. We have a natural need to want to feel love, freedom, justice, and equality. These attributes sit at the foundation of what we desire in a relationship.

Freedom in a marriage means you have the right to cultivate all the gifts and talents in you. Your spouse is there is support you in every way. To have the freedom of mind to know that there is someone that cares for us. The Supreme feels such affection for us, He has given us the gift of freedom. You are in a relationship that you have to grow and change in. All the while safeguarding the connection, you have.

Equality in a marriage has nothing to do with talents, assets, or status. It is all about wanting for your spouse what you want for yourself. It is just that simple. Wanting control is competition. To have control means one has more power over the other. No one wants to feel inferior.

Justice is keeping your duty to your spouse. As long as you keep your duty to your Creator, this will be your grace. This is justice in all forms. We already agree that knowing that there is a Thinking Intelligence is a prerequisite for these keys to work. Justice creates security.   

Language of love………

Know that you cannot love anyone more than the affection you have for yourself. If you only like yourself sometimes or just 45% of the time. That is exactly what your spouse gets. Self-appreciation determines how you look at your marriage and life.

Do you know if you are expressing the love you feel? Remember all work has to be measured. Don’t be afraid to ask if you are getting how you feel across exactly how you want them to receive it. When you kiss your love, how do you want them to feel? Take a moment and think on the reaction that will satisfy you. That energy will show up in your kiss. You are sending a message.

Goodness is all we really want for each other. However, we start to send cross signals. You say how do you do this. Think on the last time you had a serious disagreement. Out your mouth, you may be saying go-ahead leave; I can do better without you. Then in your thoughts you cry and plead, they see the smokescreen. You just sent two messages.

What stops us from expressing the we feel for each other. Are we afraid it won’t be returned to us? Are we holding on to past hurts?

“A marriage is customized to the two souls that 

make up the union”

I know when my husband is asking for forgiveness, when he is apologizing. The words are not always said aloud verbally. There are times that he plays me music; there are certain songs that he plays to me. This is acceptable.

Couples have a secret language. Don’t allow a circumstance to silence this communication. Everything about your relationship is customized to and your mate. Don’t let someone else dictate to you.

There is a foundation in marriages that are necessary have. Love, communication, respect, commitment, intimacy. Who gets to say how the two of you do this. It just needs to be. What are the benefits of having it done by the book? Only the two of you have to agree on it.

Because you are changing your thought, you have an unlimited budget for the customizing of your marriage. Because it cost nothing to change a thought.