Passion

Have you ever stopped to think what exactly it is you feel passion for?  Let me tell you when I discovered my love for growing plants of all kind.

I can remember vividly the day my mother stopped by the house. She was on her way home from one of the local gardening centers. I took four small tomatoes plants. I did not realize at that moment she was helping to release something in me that I had no idea would keep me in the arms of the one I love. Both of us was unaware of what was happening. She only stopped to give me the plants. They were really for my children.

Up to that point in my life I had never looked at myself as a gardener. The reason being, the only experience that I could recall growing anything was in grade school. You know the little paper cups with a little bit of dirt and a seed or two in them. In addition, all you had to do was sit the cup in the windowsill and wait.

Anyway, I gladly took them from the back seat of her car. I thanked her for bringing me the tomatoes, and proceeded to take them to the back yard. As I was walking, the thought crossed my mind as to what am I going to do with these plants. The thought of them being a gift from my mother weighed heavy on my mind, I just could not throw them in the back yard somewhere.

Knowing she would be back to check on them. And because of the love I have for my mother, I did not want to let her down. The simplest thing that came to mind was to simply dig four holes and drop them in, and hope for the best. The only place in the yard soft enough to dig a decent hole was next to a tree. The ground was extremely hard from the children, running and playing in the backyard all day.

I knew enough that after I dug the holes I should water them. From that day forward, my intense enthusiasm is still driving me to learn all I can about gardening. That did not make me an expert. I still had to learn about what tomatoes eat and how much sunlight they need. Each day, after arriving home from work, my first thoughts were of the plants.

After work, the backyard was the first stop to check on the tomatoes. I was looking to see if anything had happened to them since the previous day. To my surprise, they looked to be growing somewhat taller.

The following Saturday, like clockwork on one of our family outings  to the half-off bookstore. The gardening section was all that mattered. Consequently, there were many different books to choose from. There was no way of knowing which one would give the best information. In seeking out knowledge about a subject, passion was driving me to research the best environment and food for the tomatoes. The book had to have pictures and diagrams. It would need to have examples graphs and ways to measure progress.

There were so many titles. After settling on a book to read .There was excitement in just reading about gardening, more excited about the thought of gardening. With just that little bit of reading I wanted to till up half the backyard and plant everything I could. Then you find the the thing that drives your will. There is an abundance of energy, creativity and contentment.

Passion is defined as, the object of somebody's intense interest or enthusiasm. Are you still passionate about your relationship your sweetheart? A spark will do just fine. Put aside the PartyPooper and search to see if you can locate it.

All the same skills that you have developed from what you are passionate about. You have to implement them in your marriage.  The same principles apply.  This includes more than intimacy. It is the will that carries you through difficult times. It is what you feel when you achieve a great milestone in your life. You kept up the practice and worked through all the stages of learning and perfecting what you love. 

The zeal I have for gardening has lead me to reading many books, on the proper ways to cultivate the finest fruits and vegetables. My love for gardening has led me to try all sorts of formulas and create cultivating systems. Now in my maturing and healed state. I started applying the same principles that I use in gardening, to my marriage.